Life is easier when you’re well-liked.
If I have any advantage in life, it’s being well-socialized. My parents put me in preschool, sent me to church groups, and piano recitals by age four. I’m the youngest of four by 10, 12, and 14 years - My siblings were teenagers in my pacifier days. Whatever it was, being well-socialized gives me tangible advantages in life.
As a christian missionary at an early age my social personality helped me establish friendships all over the world. It helped me establish myself in church communities very easily. Having a social personality helped me when i was in a rock band, networking with other bands and artists. Which lead to me getting more gigs, lead to me making great friendships, going on tours with other bands, traveling more, and becoming well-liked in the music scenes that I was a part of. When I was starting in business and had no network it helped me get my first clients, and they didn’t just pay me, they liked me as a person. They took me under their wing and befriended me.
Life is easier when you’re likable, and it’s a skill anyone can develop.
Once I realized this was my superstrength, I started leveling it up on purpose by reading books, selling a service, and making new friends.
Social dynamics is a game we all play every day in our relationships, networks, and jobs.
Being ignorant to the rules of the game doesn’t absolve you of the consequences of breaking them. If you don’t like the outcomes you’re getting in life, discover the rules to the games you are playing.
Those who win know the rules, and use them to their advantage. The only difference separating winners from losers is their habits, or most consistent actions taken in the game. That’s something we can each improve for ourselves.
Getting good at social games doesn’t happen all at once. It’s like starting a new job. On the first day, you’re nervous because you’re setting a higher expectation of yourself. Bigger shoes to fill. The shoes of your higher identity. It takes time to get comfortable in those shoes. You might not notice progress more than every 3-6 months.