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Community Responsibilities With George Lloyd BLM Police Protests

Community Responsibilities In George Lloyd BLM Police Protests

Police brutality and racism are not the same thing.
What we must demand is police education reform.
Your fellow man is not your enemy, regardless of the color of his skin. We are all equally subject to an UNDER-trained police system. We have seen this time and time again, it is always the same issue. Police officers are not properly trained in vital principles like physical conflict management, and negotiation.
An entire overhaul of the police education system requiring two or three times as much training time before certification is what our protests must demand.
It takes six months to finish police training in CA. It takes twelves months of full time training to finish cosmetology training in CA.
I repeat, police brutality and racism are not the same problem.
The cause of the problem for which we riot and burn down our own communities is a police system with too much money being spent on guns instead of education for its officers who are supposed to be able to temporarily restrain someone without violence.
For some, protesting is the only means for speaking up and standing out.
To them I pray for understanding of their duty to protect and defend their communities from unjust tyrannies.
I pray we stand together with our fellow man and woman and demand reform. Absolute and total, national police reform.
But please, take individual responsibility during these crazy times. Do what is right for you, for your family, for your communities. Grow something, build something, create something that will change these situations for the better. Or stand and fight against this unjust irregularity. But always defend your fellow man. We are all brothers and sisters regardless of our different skin colors or political or religious beliefs.

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Choose Your Friends, Don’t Let Your Friends Choose You

"The object of life is not to be on the side of the majority, but to escape finding oneself in the ranks of the insane."
- Marcus Aurelius, Meditations
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How To Assemble An A-Team

Develop the crew around you by hand now that you are forming yourself and your life consciously.

The people closest to you have the greatest subconscious effect on you. Don't fuck around with this part of your life. Nothing can kill your potential in life greater than a close friend with a poor opinion of you or life in general. It is through your closest friends that you earn your unconscious biases and beliefs about yourself. They will influence what you believe is possible based on the level and scale at which they're playing in their own respective fields.

If you're trying to get an executive promotion and your friends are all unemployed, it is unlikely that you're going to perform the same as your competition - someone whose friends are all business owners and playing at multi-million dollar revenue levels. She's going to have a different view of what's possible and what she expects from herself and what goals she sets for herself.

She is going to sound to the hiring manager a lot like she's a multimillion dollar business owner when she goes in there.

Hand pick the friends you spend most of your time with. Make friends with influential people and spend time with them.

An alpha team friend takes your good news reports and shares them to the press. They help you strategize when you face a roadblock. They take pride in your accomplishments and help you reposition yourself for attack when you get knocked down. They are soldiers for your cause. They believe in your mission and they know where you want to go. Even if they have a lot going on, they are ready to go to war with you if you ever need-call upon them.

An alpha team friend has their own unique set of skills that makes them a perfect fit for your crew. Maybe they have a way with words, or they're great at math, or they can take anyone down to the ground at will. Have friends you can model yourself after in order to improve areas of weakness -  meanwhile, you can use their skills in battle to effectively accomplish goals as a unit, rather than on your own. 

An alpha team friend expects excellence from you. If you tell a friend that you made a mistake or you failed and they don't care, get rid of them. Alpha team friends pick you back up and say things like "Hey that's not you. Let's figure out what went wrong and you'll take another swing at it."

The only thing between you and the life you want to live is the movie that's playing in your mind. The narrator going on in your head determines how you interpret reality and how you navigate your way through it.

Alpha team friends influence you with positivity and encourage your development, giving you key insights about yourself that help you sharpen your sword. But mostly they're just there to give you a push when you get close to the edge of the diving board and start to wimp-out. 

Alpha team friends will find a way to help you spin the story to help you construct a positive paradigm even in the darkest of light. Your friends ought to be a network of symbiotic relationships that enhance your lie in all aspects. You feed them the skills and insights you gain on your self-realization journey and they feed you theirs. 

On and on unto infinity.

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HOW TO DEAL WITH FAILURE.

"If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it. This you have the power to revoke at any moment."
- Marcus Aurelius, Meditations (28)

It Starts At Your Relationship With Failure

Fear is the only thing holding anyone back from achieving a more ideal life. Your relationship with failure will determine your outcome in life. I know some people who are so afraid to fail that they don't try anything at all. The craziest thing they'll try is a new restaurant once in a while. In order to live a life of fulfillment and achievement, change your relationship with failure. 

Accept that failure is just one of two outcomes in every opportunity to improve at something. It doesn't mean anything about you as a person. When you do anything, you can either have a positive or negative outcome depending on your expectations.

When you feel something the first thing you ask yourself is "what does this feeling mean{". When you fail at something, the first thing you do is try to find out what it means about yourself. 

Accept that failure is nothing but an opportunity to discover something new. If you try something new or practice what you want to achieve or improve and you fail, good. If you don't fail the first time, then how can you improve? If you achieve everything you want the first time, you probably don't need to read this.

Failure is always going to be unpleasant. 

But when you develop a healthy relationship with it, you won't attach your identity to it. 

I recently competed in a jiu-jitsu tournament. Hanging out after my match a black belt from another gym came by a group of my teammates. They started talking about his matches went and he ended with "Competition is awesome man. I love getting my ass kicked!" I know that this particular black belt competitor flies all around the world competing on a regular basis. That's the kind of relationship he has with failure - he loves when it happens @ OF course he loves winning, or he wouldn't do it. He win's often, but he isn't afraid to lose. And he doesn't allow it to negatively affect his identity. Whether you agree with his philosophy or not of being okay with losing my hat's a man with mojo and he is  loser. No one is perfect. Even athletes with perfect records in sports lose in practice. There's always something to realize within every failure.e Ask yourself "Why did this happen? What can I do better next time? " Instead of "What does this mean about me?"

ALLOW PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE TO FAIL

Have grace for the people in your life to fail. Help them see that failure is just a part of evolving as a human and as a spiritual being. That's how we heal our karmas - by trying and experiencing and failing and getting back up and conquering. 

Everyone will make mistakes in your life - your family, friends, coworkers, employees and loved ones. If you're going to live with mojo, take responsibility for your tribe. Give them space and time to rectify their mistakes. Forgive them, teach them. Life is long - keep grace in your life so that people are evolving with you instead of turning from you. 

 

SAYING I'M SORRY

"By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected. "
- Dale Carnegie, How To Win Friends And Influence People (29)

Don't be afraid to apologize, even if you're not wrong. People want to feel like they're in control of the situation, so give them that feeling early and often. It doesn't hurt your livelihood if you get him to see things your way or give you what you want. Seek to understand their point of view, and let them know when you do . Even if they're wrong, don't you understand them? Can't you let them know that you understand them and justify their feelings, subconsciously helping them work through it? 

Make friends with your adversaries before the fight starts. Have empathy, humility and openness. Let your love cut through even the toughest of hearts. Even if you can't convince them you're right, at least they won't see you as an enemy in their eyes. At the end of the day it always helps to disarm your enemies even if you go home empty-handed.

Your counterpart sees things from your perspective much more easily when you help them feel like you understand theirs and give them a sense of control over the conversation.

This is one of those things that requires repetition in practice. I recommend reading the book "Never Split The Difference" by Chris Vocss. That guy wrote one hell of a book on the use of empathy in negotiation and it''ll transform the way you approach your interactions with people.

"Psychotherapy research shows that when individuals feel listened to, they tend to listen to themselves more carefully and to openly evaluate and clarify their own thoughts and feelings."
- Chris Voss, Never Split The Difference" 

You can't be a driftwood in the stormy sea. You have to become the captain of your own ship. when the seas become stormy, turn to your own logbook.

Write down your goals. Journal your progress. Track the data and report on your hypotheses. You are the scientist of your life's great experiment.

Systematically achieve your goals by thinking through and documenting how to accomplish each task you have set before you.

It'll help solidify your vision. Each time you write it down, your mental groove becomes deeper and deeper. 

Set a specific time each day to reflect on your daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, yearly, and long-term goals. I like to use the last hour before bed and occasionally early in the morning to journal about my progress and review my goals. You don't need to lose it, but the value of journaling and measuring your progress cannot be overstated. 

Continue to visualize your life and your ultimate character and you achieve your goals. There's a study that those who visualize more than they practice improve fate than those who spend all their time mechanically practicing without ever visualizing. 

That's how powerful and effective creative visualization can b e when shaping your nature your character, your identity, and self belief- In Lanny Bassham's highly influential book "With winning In Mind" he outlines how he used visualization to win an Olympic gold medal, winding more time visualizing than actual practicing. 

So visualize your desires, painting them out thoroughly in your mind. Wire them down and write down some actions you're going to take every day, weekly, monthly quarter, and year to make them a reality. Writing it down makes it real. 

Measure your KPIs I(key performance indicators( the things that are important to your goal. If your life a multimillion dollar business operation, what data would you measure? What goals would you be tracking How would you report that new data to your boss? Start taking your life seriously. Treat your life like it's a multimillion dollar movie production, business operation, or war campaign.